September ... Food for Thought

Self worth is a precious emotion and if there is one thing that should be placed above the reach of another human being it is self worth.  I don’t know what it is about the human race that makes it necessary to pull another down, make another feel unworthy, so they can themselves feel superior. It is happening all the time, watch and listen and you will see that almost every conversation is loaded with guilt comments or comparisons intended to make the listener or the one being talked about a lesser human being than themselves. Of course we only do this if we feel inferior.  If we have self worth and feel good about ourselves at a deep emotional level there is no need to talk other down. At the adult level the criticisms that many people have to listen to or endure almost daily can be ignored. Children however have no protection against destructive comments such as, you should be ashamed of yourself, you are not really going out in that are you? These might sound like trivial remarks but they hurt and go deep.  To answer yes is to feel guilty, to submit is to admit to having no fashion sense or should not like yourself. Unfortunately many adult observations concerning the young are far more vicious than this and are a deliberate attempt to keep the youngster from feeling proud of who they are and their right to have opinions of their own. This constant drip of criticism eventually convinces the child that they are somehow inferior and the hurt stays with them into adult life.

So how to deal with it, how to be free of our childhood hurts?

I have found the following meditation works very well. It came to me during a healing session with someone who’s self worth had been stolen and destroyed when she was a child. It was a case of sexual abuse, a sinister and evil form of destroying self worth, though of course physical abuse can be as equally destructive and verbal abuse leaves no visual wounds.

The sufferer had gone into a meditative state when she told me;
 
“Malcolm, I have an angel with me and she says to tell people what I am about to tell you. For people who have been hurt as children do the following:”

Sit comfortably on a chair and imagine . you are sitting on a beach facing the sea. Everything is calm and peaceful.  On you left will be a table on which there is a crystal.

The crystal will be empty and dull.   From the right people who have hurt you in some way when you were pre-teenage will appear.  They will come to stand in front of you. Pass back to them all the hurt they once gave.  It matters not how the hurt is passed back, as energy, in a sack or some other way. But you should have no thoughts of hurt for the people who appear before you. Just feel the energy of hurt leaving and returning to the one who caused it.  While the hurt is being passed back the love which should have been given will leave them in a stream of light to pass into the crystal. 

When all the hurt has been returned they will move away and the next one will appear. There may be some who do not want to take back the hurt which they caused but it is a spiritual law that that which you give must eventually be returned you can insist and they will be unable to prevent the return of the thoughts or hurt which they created.

You will be surprised who will show themselves, perhaps a school teacher you had forgotten or friends who said hurtful things when you were not there. Some will have died and be living in a different space, others are still alive and known to you.  All the time you will be releasing the energy of hurt and the love which should have been given will be filling the crystal.

When the last offender has walked passed and given love in return for hurt take the crystal from the stand and place it over your heart. The love it contains will flow into the now empty space in your emotional self. You will be filled with light and a feeling of contentment will follow.  When you have finished replace the crystal on the table.  Then see the child you were, take the child’s hand and bring her from the place of hurt into today with the promise that the child, your soul, need never return to the past, it is over and finished. Now the child can live peacefully and content in today knowing the adult you are will never let anyone hurt your child again.

Of course there is another side to this meditation.  It is the side of taking back to our adult selves the hurt we have caused. We need from time to time to sit and think about the careless or deliberate words and actions which we caused that spoiled someone’s happiness or self worth.  Then we need to take back the hurt we have caused and release the love we are trusted with which was meant for others and not ourselves. This is a reverse of the above meditation.

The love we are is not for ourselves but for others.  We cannot know of the love we are until we pass it to another and to with-hold love meant for another is theft. ‘You must not steal.’

The other law this essay highlights is the one that reads,  ‘You must not kill.’  It means you must not hurt another with words or in any other way.  First you must put the dagger into your own heart, destroy your own love, before you can be free to destroy the love in another.



Malcolm Southwood

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